This Dark Age

A manual for life in the modern world.

By Daniel Schwindt

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Indifference and specificity of sexual desire

It is often said by Christians that whosoever we love, we love in Christ, so that ultimately the only person loved is Christ, and through Christ, God. This is neatly summarized in the Upanishads: “It is not for love of woman that woman is desired by man, but rather for love of the atman.”

To say this is to acknowledge that behind individuality is another, higher truth, and this truth is the source of all love and the only thing worthy of love in itself, because It is in fact the Absolute. That which we love in all beings is the Absolute.

We can transpose this same principle onto the plane of sex and say that all men love only one woman, and all women only one man. The truth conveyed by this way of looking at things is important because it helps to illustrate the fact that sexual desire is, in essence, a desire that transcends individuality, and is a desire to transcend one’s own individuality. It is not merely to add another individuality to our own, making a new individuality that is a composite, but to escape the individual condition altogether, which is the only way to become whole.

What we have just said explains sexual desire in its principle, which is to say at its root, where it begins. There, the desire for the complement is what matters and so individuation only matters insofar as the basic polarization, and any woman is a woman on this level. But this fundamental attraction is not the end of the story, because man is in fact individuated and so his desire must also be determined by his individuation. This means that on the plain of expression and action, sexual choice is not a matter of indifference and the right “mate” may only present herself once in a lifetime, and this grants a certain (very tentative) legitimacy to all of the romances emphasizing one’s “true love.” The factors here, however, are much deeper than the Hollywood version, and depend on spiritual vitality, the degree of complementariness already mentioned, alongside all of those contingencies like heredity and psychic development.

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