This Dark Age

A manual for life in the modern world.

By Daniel Schwindt

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Magnetic love and the institution of marriage

At this point it is necessary to explain how these things fit into the institution of marriage and point out that what we have been describing does not necessarily manifest itself in all marriages, at least not in the long term. What we’ve been describing is the fundamental, supra-rational and supra-physical polarity that conditions the desire of man for woman and woman for man, drawing them together and having as its goal the union of coitus. Now this magnetic force, often quite powerful initially, does not persist in most relationships and the magnetic pull tends to die away even in spite of efforts to ‘rekindle the flame.’ In these cases what we are dealing with is a replacement of one thing, chaotic and spontaneous and unstable, with another that is obedient to social norms and social purposes, more constant and enduring, and capable of contributing to the stability of society and the production and rearing of offspring. That the sexual desire we’ve outlined above does not necessarily fit into marriage does not alter its importance or its reality. It merely demonstrates to us that the two should not be overly confused and that one should not expect to see sexual desire in the sense outlined above overlap perfectly with marital affection.

What we have in marriage is a social structure developed on the basis of the fundamental reality of sexual polarity, but which is capable of functioning in its absence. The two principles, then, should never be placed in opposition: that healthy and robust marriages exist without a spontaneous and powerful sexual impulse does not alter the fact that the fundamental polarity is the basis of the marriage.

We could perhaps say that the heat of the initial combustion, spontaneous as it may have been, burns out a space in the world in which the two participants, now joined in marriage, may keep warm and raise up the fruit of their union in peace and safety. We conclude by saying simply that we must not put one in front of the other: we must not say that passion must always be first, or else we sacrifice marriage, and this is unnatural; we must not say that marriage must always come first, or else we deny the reality of sexual polarity and make of love a purely social figment, and this is also unnatural. If the modern world has fixated on passion to the detriment of marriage, it is also unfortunately true that Western Christianity, with its Pauline preference for celibacy, has despised passion in favor of the social institution designed to maintain it. Really the two should be seen as degrees of union and not forces to be placed in opposition, but this has not been how things have developed, and what was joined is not separated.

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