This Dark Age

A manual for life in the modern world.

By Daniel Schwindt

This Dark Age is now available in paperback on Amazon. The print version is MUCH cleaner than this online version, which is largely unedited and has fallen by the wayside as the project has grown. If you’ve appreciated my writing, please consider leaving a review on the relevant paperback volumes. The print edition also includes new sections (Military History, War Psychology, Dogmatic Theology).

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Marriage as an alien institution

Where relationships and sex meet, there some of us find marriage. This is the most foreign concept of all to our souls, besides religion, of course. Here we have to overcome our entire indoctrination, because everything is working against us.

Consider the concept of the relationship. A man does not need a relationship with his wife. He does not need anything so abstract as that. He needs a woman—he needs that woman.

A married couple doesn’t need all those books telling them how to focus on their “relationship” and keep it healthy and alive. They need to keep each other healthy and alive. They don’t need to know how to feed this abstract thing, taking its temperature once a week on “date night,” looking it over every morning to make sure it is okay and thriving.

A man needs to be a man—a whole man—and most men decide that in order to achieve that lofty goal, they need a woman. And not just any woman, not just a lover or a mistress, but a wife. Oh yes, men need a woman to fulfill their calling. Not every man needs a woman, and not every man should get married, of course, but most men need one and so marriage is their path.

A husband and a wife do not have a relationship and don’t need one. They should, in fact, stay as far from that as possible. What they need is each other. They are no longer autonomous parties in a transaction. If she dies he will go on, but it will be as a man who has been chopped in half at the waist.

Married people don’t have relationships. Marriage doesn’t happen in the abstract, connecting people through their brains and through an idea. Husbands and wives are connected organically and spiritually, which is actually one and the same connection.

I read quite a few marriage books. They all said almost exactly the same thing. They all spoke about nothing but the marriage relationship. So deeply have our lives become bogged down in the abstract that this has become the center of our marriage training—everything turns on “the relationship.”

Through this reduction, marriage itself has been reduced to the status of something that must be maintained to ensure that both parties are getting something out of it, satisfied, fulfilled, and happy.

By abstracting marriage in that way you undermine it from the start. You take it with you into your head, where I have been warning you not to go. That’s what our forefathers have done with marriage: they’ve put the marriage into the couple’s heads.

Putting a marriage in a person’s head is suicide. Marriage should never exist in a person’s head. Think of your closest friendships, when you had them, if you had them. Your friendship was not in your head. Perhaps it entered your head, but that was probably only when it was dying, or in a moment of superficiality on your part. In any case, it was rarely something you examined in your head as a “relationship.” Friendships—true spiritual communions—are not in the head. So much more marriage, then, since it is so much more than a friendship!

But that’s how we tend to experience love, with our marriages in our heads, along with everything else. There, in the abstract, we read books about it, feed it, water it, and maintain it; and we undermine ourselves with every drop of water we feed the thing.

In a sense, you must get out of your head and start living. Be a man or a husband, a woman or a wife! Don’t think about it in the abstract, or if you must, do it only for the briefest of moments to check your steps.

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